Sometimes it seems as if everyone is offended, even offended by everyone’s offense. This past week AOC offended many with her baseless accusation that Senator Cruz “almost had her murdered.“ In turn she responded by being offended at the offended—didn’t they know that she had been a victim? Elaine on Seinfeld had a phrase for this, “ Yada, yada, yada.”
Being offended is a lot like seeking pity, it gets quick results but soon wearies everyone surrounding the primary dramatist. It has become a popular manipulative tool. To be better we should work at not being offended, or as Jesus put it, turning the other cheek. If I remember correctly He said, “ blessed are the peacemaker” not “placate the offended.”
We need to rise above the popular pattern of being offended and resist following the lead of the dominant pragmatic culture. Here are 5 helpful principles.
1. Accept that your ego and pride can be wounded. There are many ways your ego can be hurt—not being praised when you think you should be, not being accepted or included when you want to be, being misrepresented or misunderstood, and being insulted are but a few of the ways. As much as we all want to be “above it all” or the “be bigger person” we are also flesh and blood. It is vital we admit our weakness, acknowledge when hurts happens, and then intentionally act and live so that the “hurt people, hurt people”, cliché does not become the reality of our life.